About Britta Jo: Empowerment Coach for Women Considering Divorce
Hi there love,
Most people think women come to this space because they want a divorce, but if you are standing at the terrifying crossroads of your marriage, you know the truth: you aren’t searching for an exit ramp… You are searching for yourself.
You’ve spent years second-guessing your own reality. Walking on eggshells. Trying harder. Reading more books. Going to therapy. Making spreadsheets and praying.
You’ve internalized the confusion and despair, wondering if you’re just crazy or ungrateful because your life looks perfectly “good” on paper.
My mission isn’t to convince you to leave or force you to stay.
My mission is to help you untangle trauma, conditioning, fear, obligation, and people-pleasing until you can finally hear your own truth so that it becomes impossible to abandon yourself any longer.
Leaving a High-Control Religion & Divorcing a "Good Guy": My Story
My personal history is the very fire that forged the lens through which I view your healing.
I know what it’s like to live locked inside someone else’s reality because I spent the first 30 years of my life doing it.
The chapters of my own “unbecoming” are raw, real, and deeply human:
The Systemic Blueprint: I grew up as the oldest daughter of eight children in a strict Mormon household. I learned firsthand how patriarchal, religious, and familial systems shape a woman’s identity and teach her that self-sacrifice is the price of being loved.
Unmasking the Abuse: I had to do the agonizing work of untangling covert narcissistic abuse and deep-seated codependency in both my family of origin and my marriage.
The Sacred Realization: I discovered that trauma and the insecure attachment styles that result from it can masquerade beautifully as love, loyalty, duty, and even spirituality.
The Return: Guided by radical intuition, curiosity, and excruciating bravery, I rebuilt my entire life from the inside out. I left the religion, walked away from the hidden prison of emotional disconnection, and divorced a “good guy” to reclaim my wild, wise self.
I learned that true freedom isn’t automatically found in the act of leaving a marriage—it is found in finally coming home to your Self.
Healing From Codependency, Trauma, and Covert Narcissistic Abuse in Marriage
Women trust me because I don’t force them to choose between evidence and intuition.
Over my own journey and the six years I’ve spent coaching hundreds of women standing at this exact crossroads, I’ve realized that true freedom requires us to comfortably bridge three distinct worlds: science, psychology, and the soul.
When I first began untangling my own marriage, I was completely flooded by shame, anxiety, and severe trauma loops. I had internalized the despair, believing I was simply broken. What changed everything for me—and what now unlocks the “prison of the mind” for my clients—was discovering the intersection of the science of deep nervous system regulation/emotional processing, and the psychology of CPTSD, attachment theory, and how the brain works.
I steadily learned how to move my body out of chronic trauma responses like freeze and hyper-vigilance so I could finally think with clear, unshakeable discernment. I had to look clinical facts dead in the eye, learn the patterns of covert narcissistic abuse and codependency, and understand how CPTSD and systemic patriarchal programming had systematically eroded my identity.
But clearing the psychological fog was only the first half of the threshold.
Once I used science to calm my nervous system, and psychology to understand the patterns of my mind, I found myself stepping into the deeper, timeless territory of the soul. This was where the real reclamation happened—awakening radical self-trust, embodiment, and intuition. I learned how to stop looking for external certainty and instead activate my own somatic desires, decode my unique soul-calls, and utilize tools for alignment—like tarot and radical curiosity—to build a life I actually wanted to wake up to every single morning.
That personal transformation and the powerful tools I learned through coach certification became the foundation for everything I’ve created since then. For the last six years, I have taken these exact hard-won lessons and concepts and used them to guide hundreds of women through their own crossings.
I don’t teach a set static curriculum; instead I teach how to develop the foundation and discernment that allowed me to recover my own voice and self-trust. And after thousands of hours in the trenches of this work, I know with absolute conviction that the same reclamation is waiting for you.
The Stay or Go Philosophy: Overcoming Marital Indecision and Self-Abandonment
- I don't believe staying is a failure.
- I don't believe leaving is a success.
- I believe self-abandonment is the only real tragedy.
- I believe your body always knows the truth before your mind catches up.
- I believe trauma and conditioning cloud clarity, but they cannot erase your soul-calls.
- I believe women deserve a life of juicy aliveness, not just functional survival.
Through The Stay or Go Podcast, my private coaching intensives, and the Stay or Go Community, I am building a movement to permanently shatter the shame, isolation, and patriarchal double standards surrounding women at this crossroads.
When you work with me, we don’t look for quick fixes and we don’t take an aspirin for an identity crisis. We do the deep, messy, laughter-filled, and profound work of resetting the broken bones of your self-trust so you can permanently stop limping through your own life.
You will stop feeling crazy.
You will feel deeply, achingly seen.
And for the first time in decades, you will realize that life actually works better when you trust yourself and have your own back.
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