Episode 114: What happens when your marriage and life looks absolutely perfect on the outside, but on the inside, you are completely starving for a deeper, more authentic connection?
This week, I am sitting down with my client turned dear friend, LeeAnna, for a deeply vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about what it actually looks like to face a divorce after 28 years of marriage while grappling with childhood trauma and insecure attachment.
LeeAnna opens up about the painful reality of leaving a marriage that wasn’t inherently “bad” or abusive, but was plagued by a low-level, insidious emotional neglect. From navigating the deep shame of an affair to the heartbreak of letting go of her award-winning dream home, LeeAnna shares how she stopped hyper-functioning to avoid her pain and finally learned how to sit in the “stew” of her reality to choose herself.
If you are a type-A perfectionist who has spent your life collecting quantities (years of marriage, money, status) instead of focusing on emotional quality, this episode is a permission slip to embrace the messy transition and reclaim your autonomy.
In this episode, we explore:
- The “Gilded Cage” Dilemma: Choosing the truth of the inside over the beautiful, perfect image on the outside.
- Insecure Attachment & CPTSD: Recognizing emotional flashbacks and breaking the cycle of dissociation in your relationships.
- The Chemistry of “Parts Work”: How integrating your dark, traumatized, and acting-out parts allows you to show up as a whole adult.
- The Reality of Leaving with Love: Why setting boundaries and choosing divorce can be the ultimate act of kindness for both partners.
- Life On the Other Side: How LeeAnna rapidly built a massive, authentic life—including a new home, a classical Pilates studio, a trauma-informed podcast, and a deeply attuned new partnership—in just a few short months
👇 Ready to step into the same deep, life-altering work that LeeAnna did? Let’s see if we are a fit to walk this path together: CLICK HERE to book your one-on-one Alignment & Clarity Call!
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Show Notes:
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