Ep #13: There are Certain People You Can Heal With; Sometimes Your Spouse isn’t One of Them.

Welcome back to another episode of the podcast where I’m taking you on a journey of healing and self-discovery. 

In this episode, we’ll start with discussing the concept of trauma bonding and why individuals might be drawn to partners who mirror their parental figures. Understanding this link is crucial to being able to recognize and break free from unhealthy patterns, even if they feel familiar.

From there we will deep dive into  personal examples of the intricacies of attachment styles and how they play out in relationships leading to the transformative power of finding a secure partner.

Reflecting on my clients experiences and my own journey, we’ll explore the importance of individual healing within relationships and why I think marriage therapy alone might not be the solution since partners need to actively engage in their own personal work first.

As I’ve recently started dating someone who is by far the most securely attached partner I’ve had yet, I’ll expound on the significance of finding a partner committed to personal growth and
shed light on the challenges and rewards of dating someone securely attached.

I’ll also dive deeper into my own encounters with anxious and avoidant behaviors to contrast and highlight the profound impact of dating a securely attached partner and how it can shape and heal your interactions in relationship.

Join me as I navigate the joys and complexities of building a secure and nurturing relationship. From processing triggers to fostering vulnerability and growth, it’s a journey that I hope will offer inspiration for those seeking deep connection and healing in romantic partnership.💕🌟

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Ep #12: Attachment Theory & its Hidden Impacts on Your Marriage

🌟 Welcome back, lovely souls! 🌟

Join me as we delve into attachment theory and its impact on relationships. 📚✨

Discover anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles, and learn to navigate them with wisdom and self-awareness. 💔💖🌹

Unpack personal stories and insights, exploring the journey from anxious to secure attachments. 🌱

Plus, get a sneak peek into next week’s episode where we’ll explore the transformative power of secure partnerships. ✨

Ready to dive in? Let’s embark on this journey together! 💫 See you next week! 🎙️

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Ep #11: Unmanaged Complex PTSD: How It Affects Your Life & Relationships

Hey beautiful souls,

✨In this episode, we delve into Unmanaged Complex PTSD and exploring emotional flashbacks and toxic shame. Drawing insights from “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving” by Pete Walker, we uncover their impact on our journey and what happens when we don’t manage them.

It’s not about blame but recognizing past trauma’s impact, offering a path to healing and self-love. I’ll share raw truths about surrendering the
salvation fantasy, redefining love, and fostering resilience within.

Joinme for an insightful dive into managing emotional landscapes.

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Ep #10: Repressed Memories and Childhood Trauma

In this episode I’ll share my journey with repressed memories and how unveiling these  and my childhood trauma has helped me develop resilience, compassion, and unwavering strength. 🦋✨

I’ll touch briefly on Complex PTSD (CPTSD) and challenge societal disbelief as I share insights into the dissolution of the False Memory Syndrome Foundation in 2019. 🚫💭

For me this is a call to arms against victim-shaming and disbelief culture. 🛡️ 

Your truth matters and I want to create more spaces for open dialogue and healing so those of us who have experienced childhood trauma remember, we are not alone. 🌟✨

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Ep #9: Own Your Story

A journey into the profound concept of having a mindset of storytelling.

In a heart-to-heart coaching session with a cherished friend, we delved into the transformative power of crafting our own narratives. This friend,  amid an ongoing cancer diagnosis, shared the essence of her strength—her mindset of storytelling.

We explore the crucial choice of lenses through which we view our lives—tragedy or triumph, victim or victor. The realization is powerful: our experiences don’t define us; it’s how we interpret and tell our stories that shape our journey.

Drawing parallels with my own journey and that of a woman trapped in resentment, we confront the consequences of choosing a lens tainted by anger. Your story is yours to tell, and the stories we’ve been given, whether religious or societal, might not fit the vibrant narratives we wish to create for ourselves.

This episode is a rallying cry for autonomy in storytelling. As I reflect on my own experience and those of my clients, we break free from the shackles of judgment imposed by others. I challenge the idea that someone else should dictate your story, especially when it leads to self-loathing and pain.

Ultimately, the crux lies in understanding the immense power you hold—the right to tell your story exactly as you want to. Embrace it with love and support for yourself, crafting a narrative that uplifts and propels you toward the life you desire.

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Ep #8: Embrace Your One-Of-A-Kind Journey

 In this soul-nourishing conversation, we explore the pitfalls of comparison and the transformative power of embracing your unique path.  Join me as I share a personal revelation that shifted my perspective and allowed me to fully appreciate my own journey.

🌿 We unpack the origins of comparison, acknowledging its roots in evolutionary biology and societal conditioning. It’s time to release the shame that often accompanies comparison and recognize it as a natural part of the human experience.

💖 Discover the importance of examining and reevaluating your worldviews. Challenge preconceived notions and beliefs that may no longer serve your authentic self.

👭 Surround yourself with inspiring women who boldly express their true selves. Seek out those who encourage authenticity and foster an environment where you can thrive. It’s time to build meaningful connections with your soul tribe.

🌈 Start embracing your uniqueness with small, intentional steps. Share your opinions, wear something that stretches your comfort zone, and say no when needed. Each micro-moment of choosing yourself strengthens your relationship with your true essence.

💫 In the end, I invite you to savor the present moment and relish in the beauty of your ongoing journey. You are a masterpiece, a one-of-a-kind creation. Let’s celebrate the incredible person you are right now and the journey that continues to unfolInd.

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Ep #7: Guilt Keeps You Trapped in Indecision. Let it Go.

Ever felt the weight of guilt while considering a different path? You’re not alone, and we’re about to untangle the threads of this societal programming.

💡 Unveiling the roots: Patriarchy. Yes, that P-word. Join me on a profound exploration of its influence on our choices, unraveling the intricate dance of staying or bravely deciding to move forward.

🔄 Stimulus, thought, feeling, response: the magic formula of emotional intelligence. Get ready for some mind-expanding insights into how our emotions are shaped and how we can reclaim our power.

🌈 The journey doesn’t end there! We’ll discuss the profound impact of protest behavior and emotional childhood in adult relationships, unveiling patterns that might mirror our past. Let’s empower ourselves to break free from these cycles.

🌻 Your right to make healthy and aligned choices is non-negotiable. You are an individual first and a partner in your marriage second. Let’s explore the freedom in embracing your individuality.

🎉 So, whether you’re pondering the next steps in your relationship or simply seeking insights into the complexities of human connection, this episode is your guide. Remember to subscribe, rate, and join the community.

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Ep #6: Why I Am a “Stay or Go Coach” Rather Than a Divorce Coach

#6: Come along as I share the three reasons I’ve chosen to focus specifically on this part of your journey.

💔 Reflecting on my fresh post-divorce struggles, I reveal the power of neutrality and the importance of allowing you the time to find your own answers.  Avoid the pressure of external voices and embrace the in-between space of self-discovery.

💖 Unveil the magic of personal change during the decision process and discover how it can breathe new life into your relationship. Learn from a client’s inspiring journey, where honest communication transformed resentment into a renewed connection.

🌟 Embrace the opportunity for growth and self-empowerment, remembering that your truth is the guiding compass.  Trust yourself to make decisions aligned with your soul, whether it’s leaning into vulnerability or taking precious moments for self-care.

👂 As we wrap up, remember: I see you, I love you, and you’re not alone in this profound journey.  Tune in, embrace the wisdom, and empower yourself to make choices that align with your authentic truth. 🌻

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Ep #5: Considering Divorce? Understand the Life-Death-Life Cycle First

In this episode, we delve into the profound dance between life and death, challenging the conventional fear and discomfort surrounding the latter. Discover the beauty of this cyclical process and how embracing it can bring immense growth and transformation.

💔 Grieving and Growing: Explore the complexities of grief and the simultaneous birth of new experiences. Learn how allowing yourself to grieve opens space for new opportunities and how acknowledging the ebb and flow of emotions is essential for a fulfilling life.

🌱 Your Garden of Life: Picture your life as a vast garden, with different aspects like relationships, career, and personal interests. Understand the importance of choosing wisely where to invest your limited resources and ask yourself: What is the goal of your garden, and what does your soul truly desire?

🔍 Stripping Away External Labels: Challenge the external labels that define you. Explore the essence of who you are beyond roles, relationships, and achievements. Discover the strength that lies in connecting with your soul self, transcending external categorizations.

🌈 Trust Your Intuition: Dive into the magic of intuition as your inner compass. Trusting this deep knowing opens the door to a life beyond expectations, a life painted with the colors of joy, excitement, and authenticity.

🔄 The Cyclical Nature of Life: Acknowledge the cyclical process of joy and sorrow, life and death. Understand that the journey involves both letting go and welcoming the new. Learn to navigate these cycles with compassion and a deep connection to your soul.

🔮 Always More Ahead: Challenge the scarcity mindset and embrace the belief that there is always more ahead. Explore the abundance that comes with allowing life to unfold, knowing that every ending paves the way for a more aligned and fulfilling future.

🌌 Your Centered Journey: Shift the focus from external relationships to your inner self. Recognize that you are the center of your life’s journey, and allowing paths to diverge can lead to personal and collective growth. Embrace the sufficiency and abundance that comes with prioritizing your authentic desires.

🌟 Conclusion: As you navigate the interplay of life and death, remember your constant presence in the ever-unfolding tapestry of existence. Embrace the depths, make peace with transitions, and trust that there is always more love, joy, and fulfillment ahead on your unique journey. 🌈✨

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Ep #4: Breaking Free: Challenging the 50-Year Marriage Myth

🎙️✨ Dive deep into the changing landscape of marriage in this eye-opening episode! As a guide on your journey, I share my personal experiences growing up in a culture that emphasized long-lasting marriages and how my own path led me to question this traditional belief.

🤔💖 Explore the idea that measuring the success of a marriage solely by its duration may overlook the crucial element of quality. I challenge the notion that a good marriage must last 50 years, urging you to reflect on your own desires and needs within a partnership.

🔄🌍 Unpack the impact of the evolving world on relationships, thanks to the internet and increased exposure to diverse lifestyles. Discover how individuals today experience more profound personal growth and transformations, sometimes leading to shifts in beliefs and desires that challenge the foundation of a marriage.

🌱💪 Embrace the philosophy of marriage as a conduit for growth, emphasizing the importance of both partners thriving individually and together. Understand that staying in a marriage solely for its duration may hinder personal and collective evolution.

👀🚪 Peek into the concept of cleaning out your mental “house” before leaving a marriage, ensuring that you carry forward lessons and growth rather than repeating patterns. Challenge the conventional wisdom and consider the possibility of finding happiness beyond the confines of a marriage that no longer serves your well-being.

🔍💡 Get curious about your own desires, explore what you truly want from a relationship, and envision a future where both individuals grow and thrive. Remember, the evolving world offers numerous options for healing, mental health support, and personal development.

🌈✨ If you’re questioning the happiness and growth within your marriage, this episode invites you to think outside the traditional 50-year framework.

Subscribe, share with friends, and join me on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment!

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