Insecure attachment

Episode 114: What happens when your marriage and life looks absolutely perfect on the outside, but on the inside, you are completely starving for a deeper, more authentic connection?

This week, I am sitting down with my client turned dear friend, LeeAnna, for a deeply vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about what it actually looks like to face a divorce after 28 years of marriage while grappling with childhood trauma and insecure attachment.

LeeAnna opens up about the painful reality of leaving a marriage that wasn’t inherently “bad” or abusive, but was plagued by a low-level, insidious emotional neglect. From navigating the deep shame of an affair to the heartbreak of letting go of her award-winning dream home, LeeAnna shares how she stopped hyper-functioning to avoid her pain and finally learned how to sit in the “stew” of her reality to choose herself.

If you are a type-A perfectionist who has spent your life collecting quantities (years of marriage, money, status) instead of focusing on emotional quality, this episode is a permission slip to embrace the messy transition and reclaim your autonomy.

In this episode, we explore:

The “Gilded Cage” Dilemma: Choosing the truth of the inside over the beautiful, perfect image on the outside.
Insecure Attachment & CPTSD: Recognizing emotional flashbacks and breaking the cycle of dissociation in your relationships.
The Chemistry of “Parts Work”: How integrating your dark, traumatized, and acting-out parts allows you to show up as a whole adult.
The Reality of Leaving with Love: Why setting boundaries and choosing divorce can be the ultimate act of kindness for both partners.
Life On the Other Side: How LeeAnna rapidly built a massive, authentic life—including a new home, a classical Pilates studio, a trauma-informed podcast, and a deeply attuned new partnership—in just a few short months

👇 Ready to step into the same deep, life-altering work that LeeAnna did? Let’s see if we are a fit to walk this path together: CLICK HERE to book your one-on-one Alignment & Clarity Call!

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Episode 113: You don’t trust yourself because you’ve been taught not to love yourself. 💔 If you are constantly drowning in doubt, feeling paralyzed by the decision to stay or go, and wondering why you can’t just make a choice and move forward—this deep, incredibly vulnerable episode is for you.

This week, I’m pulling back the curtain on a massive piece of the puzzle that so many women considering divorce completely miss. 🧠✨ The root of your self-doubt isn’t just standard marital distress. It actually ties back to a deep-seated childhood injury: insecure attachment, or what author Kelly McDaniel beautifully calls “Mother Hunger.” If you grew up in an environment where mistakes weren’t okay, or where your boundaries had to be violated just to keep the peace, your body stored that fear. Now, your marriage has become a literal proxy for your childhood trauma, leaving your nervous system constantly on fire. 🔥

In this episode, I’m breaking down:

The 6 eye-opening points from the book Mother Hunger that completely blew my mind. 📚
Why trying to heal your attachment wounds while trapped in a toxic marriage is an absolute fantasy. 🙅‍♀️
Implicit memory: How your body remembers the first two years of your life, even if your conscious brain doesn’t. 🧬
The Savior Complex: The lie patriarchy sells us that we can endlessly sacrifice our own boundaries to save our partners (spoiler alert: we are human, not superhumans!).
The launchpad to freedom: Why finding a community of securely attached women—a true sisterhood—is the ultimate predictor of your future health and happiness. 👯‍♀️❤️

Babes, I’m being so real with you today because I know this quicksand intimately. I’m sharing my own recent, raw breakdown on my therapist’s couch to show you that healing is a lifelong process, but you don’t have to do it alone. You deserve structural scaffolding, safety, and a launchpad out of the burning building. 🚀

👇 Ready to build your launchpad and step into deep, life-altering work? I’ve brought my deep-dive one-on-one coaching container back to the front, and for a temporary time, I’m lowering the price by 16%. Let’s see if we are a fit to walk this path together: CLICK HERE to book your one-on-one Alignment & Clarity Call!

Connect with Britta:

Text 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨

Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️

Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫

The Deep Dive – 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive